This morning I was reading an article from Mika Brzezinski about how she has had a lifelong struggle with sugar. Her words resonated with me, I could have written them too based on what my relationship with sugar used to look like. As Mika works to change her relationship with sugar by “pulling herself back in” with mindfulness, I am cheering for her, but I also want to share some insights from someone who has been there.Read More
This week someone shared with me their triumphant story about going on a diet and losing weight and becoming a health coach and living happily ever after.
The conversation started when this person friended me on Facebook and then proceeded to suggest that I share her information with others after I finished scrolling through her Facebook page. (A little ballsy if you ask me but I am a sucky marketer so what do I know.)Read More
I really enjoy the world of thought leaders and looking outside the box and questioning old ways of doing and new ways of being. That's why it's so disappointing to dig under the surface of some of the programs out there and find the same old same old being re-packaged as something new.
I also like to keep an open mind and check out the latest crazes because you never know - there could be something useful about them. Luckily, I also have a pretty strong bullshit detector and these days - it's working overtime.Read More
For those who may be starting their intuitive eating journey, or wondering what body positivity is all about, or thinking there is no way that I will ever like this body of mine so I am going to keep working on how I eat, I wanted to give you a little heads up.
It’s not about the food.
Wanting to control your body and wanting to control your food is a symptom of a much deeper, richer journey inward. The food piece is the doorway into this work.Read More
I just had lunch with a friend. She shared with me her recent visit to the doctor for a physical. There are so many things wrong with this story that I think you are going to need to make sure that you are sitting down. You might want a warm blanket, cup of tea or a teddy bear too. You are going to need it.
I don't even know where to begin.Read More
Hi Tommy - I read your article in the Atlantic. Thank you for sharing your story so openly and honestly. There were a few things I noticed along the way and I hope you don't mind if I share them.
Your body was never a problem. When the kids on the bus were teasing you, that was fat phobia and weight stigma at play. It was not your fault.Read More
This post is a review of Bright Lines Eating - a book and program by Susan Peirce Thompson. In case you do not wish to read any further, I'll save you some time. This program is, unfortunately, teaching people how to have an eating disorder while upholding and supporting fat phobia and weight stigma. Please avoid if you want to have a healthy relationship with food and your body.Read More
Someone recently asked for details on what it looks like to be a successful intuitive eater. Do we ever stop counting calories and thinking about our weight?
Yes and no.
Someone also asked me recently if I was "happy" with my new approach to food and my body.
This week my blog was picked up and published by the Elephant Journal. You can read all about how I compare quitting dieting to a spiritual awakening here. Please click on the heart so I know if you like the post!
When I wrote my blog post about having a daughter in middle school, it didn’t occur to me that the teachings in the classroom would be something I would need to worry about. Apparently, I was wrong. This week - this graphic was used in the school’s health lesson. I think the class should be renamed Fat Shaming 101. Here is a list of the things I found troubling in just one day of health class as well as the reasons why these issues are so problematic.Read More
Last week I heard someone tell a story about a young person whose doctor thought they were gaining more weight than the they should and the doctor suggested they do something about it. It was determined somehow that poor eating habits and lack of movement were the problem and somehow this was corrected. I don’t know the details but the person lost weight and went into adulthood in a smaller body.
The person telling the story was saying – see – sometimes young people need help learning what to do so they can be healthier.Read More
I modified the typical 12 step list from the addiction model for two reasons. One, I had clients who had been members of Overeaters Anonymous and who valued the 12 step process and the feeling of community while being members. Unfortunately, they were also harmed by the idea that they were powerless over food - the original addiction model does not apply to food - so I wanted to give them their power back.Read More
It occurred to me the other day that I probably had an eating disorder through most of my life. It never occurred to me that that was my problem because I always thought my problem was being the wrong size.
And since I thought that trying to change my body was normal, and because I never got thin enough to concern anyone, I never realized that I could have gotten help for my suffering much earlier than I did.Read More
I am not an expert in feeding children. But I am a parent who has to feed her children every day. I want to offer a few resources on how to feed children from those who know more than I, plus some perspective from someone who has heard countless stories about how a person's eating experience as a child shaped their relationship to food and their body as adults (and not in a good way).
This post was inspired by one cherry.Read More
When it comes to food and body, it often feels like the grass would be greener if only we had a different body.
But is this really true?
If I look at a picture of myself from a few years ago, I might feel a bit nostalgic for the body that I had at that time. My body looks different now.Read More
Elizabeth woke up and immediately thought of the things she didn't want to do that day. The obligations, the chores, the work. Ugh. There is nothing I want to do today, she thought.
She got out of bed and noted that her feet hurt when they touched the floor and her back was sore. Great. We are off to a wonderful start today - she thought sarcastically. Maybe if I weren't so heavy my back wouldn't be sore.Read More
My client sent me a certain NYTimes opinion piece article that I wanted to respond to right away because it was driving me crazy. The original article is called "The Problem with Body Positivity" and the article is indeed causing a problem with it's mis-information, damaging healthism, contradictory points and lack of understanding of what a true Health at Every Size® and body positive approach even means. So let me clarify a few things if I may.Read More
I have something I need to get off my chest. How long does it take for people to be doing the same thing over and over again and not getting the results they want, for them to simply stop?
How long does it take for people to stop berating their loved ones for not getting the result they think they should get? I think I am mad at these people the most.Read More
Dear Dr. Kim & Other Spiritual Leaders:
Oh my - where to begin. I watched your video on epigenetics and body shape this morning with horror and fascination. There is about 95% of your message that is helpful and true and yet - the entire message is also harmful and fat phobic.Read More
I have been practicing Intuitive Eating for several years. Before that, I was your typical American dieter who thought that her biggest failure in life was not being a size XYZ. I thought dieting was simply what you were supposed to do and I thought everyone thought about food as much as I did.
Then I discovered Intuitive Eating. Like many people who start out on the road of IE, I had the secret hope that when I healed my obsession with food, my weight would settle at a place that not only felt good but "looked good" based on society's standards and cultural conditioning.