Solving our Weight "Problem" Using the Frequency of Emotions

Albert Einstein said - “We can't solve problems by using the same level of consciousness we used when we created them.”

This is why dieting, restriction and intentional weight loss will never work to help us heal our relationship with our weight.

The "problem" of weight and our body has been created through fear-based thinking.  For example, a family member or a television ad may have told us we need to be smaller to be healthier or prettier or more acceptable.

So we live in fear of being unhealthy, unattractive and unacceptable.

Now we have a problem.  We feel bad about our bodies and we think our weight or our size or our appearance is the problem.

To solve our problem, we often create solutions that dictate “I am going to only eat X times a day”, or “I am only going to eat Y amount of food” or “I am not going to eat certain foods at all”. 

This solution is restrictive and punitive and rooted in fear.  The solution is at the same level of thinking that created the problem.

It will never work.

So how do we solve this problem of feeling bad about our bodies using an approach from an energy greater than and more powerful than fear?

What is greater than and more powerful than fear?

Love. 

Which emotion operates from a higher frequency and elevated state of consciousness than fear?

Love.

Love reminds us that we are already magnificent, divine beings and that the vessel we are traveling this Earth in (our body) is deserving of our appreciation, love, and support, not our disdain, disgust and loathing.

I'm not saying that love will make you skinny. I don’t have a crystal ball and only your body knows what your body is supposed to look like.  I'm saying that love will set you free from feelings of self-loathing, open you up to all the feelings and experiences that you thought you would get from being skinny and allows you to make choices that truly benefit your unique body.

Let’s look at an example of a woman who doesn’t like her body and has been dieting in order to like herself better and let’s look at this example while also comparing her experience to this chart, adapted from Dr. David Hawkins scale of consciousness in the book Power vs. Force, illustrating the frequency of our emotions from low to high.

For 10 years our dieter has judged her body as unacceptable because it didn't fit in with the unattainable idealized vision of thinness in her culture, and she has been trying to manipulate the size of her body in response.  She fuels this process with fear, hatred, anger, grief, criticism, despair, annoyance, irritation, and disgust.  (Who can relate?!)

Notice where all of the emotions she experiences fall on the emotional scale. How would anyone ever expect to feel good if they are stuck in these emotions when they are approaching how to live well and have a peaceful relationship with their bodies?   

Now let's assume she tries to solve the problem from a higher frequency of energy or a more powerful perspective.

When we step out of the emotions of fear and apathy, it takes the emotion of COURAGE to take back our life and our power.  COURAGE is where our lived experience starts to become more fulfilling and anabolic. 

It takes COURAGE to start to heal the places inside that have been dead or buried - all for very good reason, because they were too painful to explore or express.

It takes COURAGE to reject the dominant paradigm in our culture that bodies must look a certain way and we must all eat a certain way or move a certain way to be considered healthy and thus worthy.

It takes COURAGE to accept the body that you have and vow to treat it with more respect no matter what anyone else is saying around you.

And once we find this COURAGE and begin to use it - we are then able to craft behaviors and solutions that help us feel the way we want to feel from a place of power and strength. 

By tapping into our courage, we move into neutrality which says that no matter what the outcome is, or what our bodies look like, we know we are safe and worthy.  It’s all going to be ok.

Once we step into neutrality and let go of outcomes as being good or bad, we then tap into willingness - the willingness to choose new behaviors, the willingness to explore our body story, the willingness to experiment and learn and evolve.

Next, we move into acceptance.  We accept that we are always doing the best that we can in each and every moment, and we accept our experience, our story, and our bodies.

This leads us to reason where we are able to rewrite the limiting beliefs that have held us back for so long.   We are now able to see how the dieting industry played off our fears in an attempt to make money. We can see how fatphobia and weight stigma keep people rooted in fear.  

We learn how social forces, emotional issues, physical factors, and environmental truths have impacted our experience with weight and our health.

From this place of reason and new learning, we craft updated well-being goals outlining how we want to treat our bodies. Our plans become fluid and flexible and filled with a quest for pleasure, comfort, and enjoyment.

I imagine the process like being in a hot air balloon and untying the last few sandbags holding it down.

We move into peace, love, and joy and are able to return here again and again because now we know it's possible and we can always make the choices that will bring us back here.  We no longer have to live in fear.

What does this mean for our chronic dieter? It means she courageously let go of the beliefs that her body has to look a certain size and shape.  She is willing to explore how she actually feels in her own body and she starts to gently uncover buried emotions and recognize her own inner wisdom when it comes to what to eat and how to move.

She focuses on joy and pleasure and no matter what, eating experiences become fun and an opportunity for celebration rather than full of dread and fear.  Whether she eats chocolate cake or broccoli, she is grateful for the experience, thankful for the food, and happy to be alive.

She is not guided by an outcome or her appearance or external pressures - she is guided by her inner knowing and her trust in her body and by how she feels.

She knows now that the real problem was not her body, it was how she was living in fear and how she was viewing her body and its relationship with the world.

She feels more alive and free than she has ever felt before as she approaches her well being from this elevated way of being.

It turns out, our universal preoccupation with weight is actually the perfect opportunity to follow Einstein’s timeless words of wisdom and practice entering a higher state of consciousness by turning our fear into love.

Einstein was indeed a genius.