6 Things to Consider if You Want to Lose Weight

6 Things to Consider if You Want to Lose Weight

There are many people in the world who want to lose weight. Before stepping on that path for the first time or the 30th time, here are a few things to consider.

First, what is your goal and why?

For example, in my 30's I had a goal weight in mind. It was a weight I had achieved for a few years between college and marriage when I was living on my own, working and had very few responsibilities. Fast forward to age 36 and 3 babies later and I was still trying to weigh that. And because I didn't weigh that - I automatically judged my body as being unacceptable without actually considering how it felt to be in my body or how my body functioned. So what is your goal? When did you set that as the goal? Who and what influenced your decision? Why do you think it's something you need to do?

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How James Corden Got it Right and What He’s Still Missing

How James Corden Got it Right and What He’s Still Missing

Dear James , 

I absolutely loved your response to Bill Maher about fat shaming. You are right on that fat shaming is just a form of bullying and it will do nothing to make people smaller. Bravo.

In fact, fat shaming and weight bias has been shown to actually have a negative effect on health that is worse than whatever weight a person may be carrying on their body.

However, I did want to mention a few things that you may want to consider in addition to the great points you already made in your rebuttal.

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Solving our Weight "Problem" Using the Frequency of Emotions

Solving our Weight "Problem" Using the Frequency of Emotions

Albert Einstein said - “We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

This is why dieting, rules and restriction will never work to help us heal our relationship with our weight.

You see, the "problem" of our body has been created through fear based thinking.  For example, someone told us we should be smaller to be healthier and prettier and more acceptable.

So we live in fear of being unhealthy, unattractive and unacceptable.

Now we have a problem.  We feel bad about our bodies.

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Dear Mike Dooley - about your weight loss program.....

First off, I have been a fan of yours for many years. Your Notes from the Universe are profound and uplifting and inspirational. I have saved many of them over the years because they make me smile. Like this one:

No more "supposed to's," OK, Elizabeth? 

You're not supposed to work harder, look better, sleep less, sell more, run faster, talk slower, be happier, stay longer, leave earlier, cook, clean, negotiate, settle, start, stop, move, try, win, shake, rattle or roll. 

Other people made all that up. 

I love you the way you are,

   The Universe

Which is why it makes it all the more confusing to see that you now have an offering called "Losing Weight and Looking Great". Really?

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It's Ok If You Still Want to Lose Weight

It's Ok If You Still Want to Lose Weight

Intuitive Eating (IE) is a transformational approach to improving your relationship with food and body. When studying IE, one learns about what diet mentality is and how it might be holding you back from peace with food. IE students learn many other new concepts such as permission to eat and how to disarm the food police.

One very important thing true intuitive eaters also learn is that Intuitive Eating is not about weight loss.

In fact, true intuitive eating and intentional weight loss are quite the opposites.

And yet, people often still want to lose weight when they start intuitive eating.

I know I did.

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Dear Coach of Teens,

Dear Coach of Teens,

First, thank you so much for your time and effort.  Sports are an incredible opportunity to learn how to work together as a team, and to learn new skills or get better at something you may not be very good at.  It's also a great bonding experience and chance to have fun. 

And of course it's an opportunity to move and connect and be in our bodies which feels so good both mentally and physically.  So again, thank you for making the time for teaching these skills and guiding these experiences.

There is just one thing that I want to talk about if you don't mind.

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"My Friend Has a Weight Problem"

"My Friend Has a Weight Problem"

It happens over and over again. When I tell people what I do - helping women heal their relationships with food and body, people will tell me that they have a friend with a weight problem. 


Their voices drop a little as if maybe they shouldn't be talking about it. And then they proceed to tell me about the friend in a bigger body who is unhappy and has lost some weight recently or is trying to lose weight, can I help them? 

Some people will also say that they know diets don’t work but can I help them do it the “right” way?

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Do You Struggle With Sugar like Mika?

Do You Struggle With Sugar like Mika?

This morning I was reading an article from Mika Brzezinski about how she has had a lifelong struggle with sugar. Her words resonated with me, I could have written them too based on what my relationship with sugar used to look like. As Mika works to change her relationship with sugar by “pulling herself back in” with mindfulness, I am cheering for her, but I also want to share some insights from someone who has been there.

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You Want to Talk about Weight Loss?

You Want to Talk about Weight Loss?

This week someone shared with me their triumphant story about going on a diet and losing weight and becoming a health coach and living happily ever after.

The conversation started when this person friended me on Facebook and then proceeded to suggest that I share her information with others after I finished scrolling through her Facebook page. (A little ballsy if you ask me but I am a sucky marketer so what do I know.)

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Media Minute - A Review of WildFit

Media Minute - A Review of WildFit

I really enjoy the world of thought leaders and looking outside the box and questioning old ways of doing and new ways of being. That's why it's so disappointing to dig under the surface of some of the programs out there and find the same old same old being re-packaged as something new.   

I also like to keep an open mind and check out the latest crazes because you never know - there could be something useful about them.  Luckily, I also have a pretty strong bullshit detector and these days - it's working overtime.

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It's Not About the Food

It's Not About the Food

For those who may be starting their intuitive eating journey, or wondering what body positivity is all about, or thinking there is no way that I will ever like this body of mine so I am going to keep working on how I eat, I wanted to give you a little heads up.

It’s not about the food.

Wanting to control your body and wanting to control your food is a symptom of a much deeper, richer journey inward. The food piece is the doorway into this work.

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Tommy - Can You Hear Me?

Tommy - Can You Hear Me?

Hi Tommy - I read your article in the Atlantic. Thank you for sharing your story so openly and honestly. There were a few things I noticed along the way and I hope you don't mind if I share them.

Your body was never a problem. When the kids on the bus were teasing you, that was fat phobia and weight stigma at play.  It was not your fault.

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Media Minute - Bright Lines Eating Review

Media Minute - Bright Lines Eating Review

This post is a review of Bright Lines Eating - a book and program by Susan Peirce Thompson.  In case you do not wish to read any further, I'll save you some time. This program is, unfortunately, teaching people how to have an eating disorder while upholding and supporting fat phobia and weight stigma. Please avoid if you want to have a healthy relationship with food and your body.

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Middle School Health Class (Fat Shaming 101)

Middle School Health Class (Fat Shaming 101)

When I wrote my blog post about having a daughter in middle school, it didn’t occur to me that the teachings in the classroom would be something I would need to worry about. Apparently, I was wrong. This week - this graphic was used in the school’s health lesson. I think the class should be renamed Fat Shaming 101. Here is a list of the things I found troubling in just one day of health class as well as the reasons why these issues are so problematic.

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The Cost of Weight Loss

The Cost of Weight Loss

Last week I heard someone tell a story about a young person whose doctor thought they were gaining more weight than the they should and the doctor suggested they do something about it. It was determined somehow that poor eating habits and lack of movement were the problem and somehow this was corrected. I don’t know the details but the person lost weight and went into adulthood in a smaller body. 

The person telling the story was saying – see – sometimes young people need help learning what to do so they can be healthier. 

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The 12 Step Process - Modified for Chronic Dieters

The 12 Step Process - Modified for Chronic Dieters

I modified the typical 12 step list from the addiction model for two reasons. One, I had clients who had been members of Overeaters Anonymous and who valued the 12 step process and the feeling of community while being members. Unfortunately, they were also harmed by the idea that they were powerless over food - the original addiction model does not apply to food - so I wanted to give them their power back.

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Undiagnosed Eating Disorders

Undiagnosed Eating Disorders

It occurred to me the other day that I probably had an eating disorder through most of my life. It never occurred to me that that was my problem because I always thought my problem was being the wrong size.

And since I thought that trying to change my body was normal, and because I never got thin enough to concern anyone, I never realized that I could have gotten help for my suffering much earlier than I did.

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