It's Not About the Food

It's Not About the Food

For those who may be starting their intuitive eating journey, or wondering what body positivity is all about, or thinking there is no way that I will ever like this body of mine so I am going to keep working on how I eat, I wanted to give you a little heads up.

It’s not about the food.

Wanting to control your body and wanting to control your food is a symptom of a much deeper, richer journey inward. The food piece is the doorway into this work.

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Tommy - Can You Hear Me?

Tommy - Can You Hear Me?

Hi Tommy - I read your article in the Atlantic. Thank you for sharing your story so openly and honestly. There were a few things I noticed along the way and I hope you don't mind if I share them.

Your body was never a problem. When the kids on the bus were teasing you, that was fat phobia and weight stigma at play.  It was not your fault.

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Media Minute - Bright Lines Eating Review

Media Minute - Bright Lines Eating Review

This post is a review of Bright Lines Eating - a book and program by Susan Peirce Thompson.  In case you do not wish to read any further, I'll save you some time. This program is, unfortunately, teaching people how to have an eating disorder while upholding and supporting fat phobia and weight stigma. Please avoid if you want to have a healthy relationship with food and your body.

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Middle School Health Class (Fat Shaming 101)

Middle School Health Class (Fat Shaming 101)

When I wrote my blog post about having a daughter in middle school, it didn’t occur to me that the teachings in the classroom would be something I would need to worry about. Apparently, I was wrong. This week - this graphic was used in the school’s health lesson. I think the class should be renamed Fat Shaming 101. Here is a list of the things I found troubling in just one day of health class as well as the reasons why these issues are so problematic.

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The Cost of Weight Loss

The Cost of Weight Loss

Last week I heard someone tell a story about a young person whose doctor thought they were gaining more weight than the they should and the doctor suggested they do something about it. It was determined somehow that poor eating habits and lack of movement were the problem and somehow this was corrected. I don’t know the details but the person lost weight and went into adulthood in a smaller body. 

The person telling the story was saying – see – sometimes young people need help learning what to do so they can be healthier. 

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The 12 Step Process - Modified for Chronic Dieters

The 12 Step Process - Modified for Chronic Dieters

I modified the typical 12 step list from the addiction model for two reasons. One, I had clients who had been members of Overeaters Anonymous and who valued the 12 step process and the feeling of community while being members. Unfortunately, they were also harmed by the idea that they were powerless over food - the original addiction model does not apply to food - so I wanted to give them their power back.

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Undiagnosed Eating Disorders

Undiagnosed Eating Disorders

It occurred to me the other day that I probably had an eating disorder through most of my life. It never occurred to me that that was my problem because I always thought my problem was being the wrong size.

And since I thought that trying to change my body was normal, and because I never got thin enough to concern anyone, I never realized that I could have gotten help for my suffering much earlier than I did.

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One Cherry

One Cherry

I am not an expert in feeding children. But I am a parent who has to feed her children every day.  I want to offer a few resources on how to feed children from those who know more than I, plus some perspective from someone who has heard countless stories about how a person's eating experience as a child shaped their relationship to food and their body as adults (and not in a good way).

This post was inspired by one cherry.

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Elizabeth and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Bad Body Day

Elizabeth and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Bad Body Day

Elizabeth woke up and immediately thought of the things she didn't want to do that day. The obligations, the chores, the work. Ugh. There is nothing I want to do today, she thought.

She got out of bed and noted that her feet hurt when they touched the floor and her back was sore. Great. We are off to a wonderful start today - she thought sarcastically. Maybe if I weren't so heavy my back wouldn't be sore.

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The Problem with Body Positivity: A Rebuttal

The Problem with Body Positivity: A Rebuttal

My client sent me a certain NYTimes opinion piece article that I wanted to respond to right away because it was driving me crazy.  The original article is called "The Problem with Body Positivity" and the article is indeed causing a problem with it's mis-information, damaging healthism, contradictory points and lack of understanding of what a true Health at Every Size® and body positive approach even means. So let me clarify a few things if I may. 

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I Still Have Fat on My Body

I Still Have Fat on My Body

I have been practicing Intuitive Eating for several years. Before that, I was your typical American dieter who thought that her biggest failure in life was not being a size XYZ. I thought dieting was simply what you were supposed to do and I thought everyone thought about food as much as I did. 

Then I discovered Intuitive Eating. Like many people who start out on the road of IE, I had the secret hope that when I healed my obsession with food, my weight would settle at a place that not only felt good but "looked good" based on society's standards and cultural conditioning.


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What I had to Say About my Company Fitness Challenge

What I had to Say About my Company Fitness Challenge

When I am not working as a mind-body eating coach, I am a health actuary in my spare time. For the last few years, my company has had a fitness challenge. The point of this challenge is to count steps (or convert other fitness activities to the number of steps) so the company can get to a certain number of steps as a firm wide goal. There are teams and prizes from all expenses paid trips to gift cards.  This activity has always bothered me and this year I decided to speak up.  So this morning, I sent the organizers this letter. 

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